A note to all fathers, to recognise and celebrate the amazing men in our lives as well those who are now are not with us. In our family these men provide perspective, conversations, support, love, laughter and hugs. In our household hugs make the world go round.
It is a day we celebrate with mixed emotions. The joy of Zac and I starting a tradition of taking his footprints and writing a note to Sime is muted with the sadness that today is Thomas’s (Sime’s nephew) first without a Dad. Sime’s first fathers day is one where he contemplates a diminishing Buckland clan… grandfather, father and brother having all passed within the last four years.
Zac is celebrating Fathers Day thriving, as described by the NICU doctor at his six week check up. At this check up, Zac weighed 4.35Kg, measured 54.5cm and had a head circumference of 38cm. Everything growing symmetrically including his head (cant speak highly enough of a peanut pillow). As Zac did in the NICU, he shows resilience, taking whatever life throws at him in his stride.
After two weeks with the cavage feeding tube he decided enough was enough and pulled it out; “boob now mum (or if I must I will take the bottle)”. Many would suggest driving 12 hours to Melbourne with a newborn would result in many tears… whilst Sime and I shed a few, Zac snoozed the drive away. He then went on to delight friends and family grieving in Melbourne, continuing to grow and develop. We left a pattern of staying awake for all hours in Melbourne and upon his return has settled into a pattern of feeding, playing and sleeping.
Today Zac’s weight is closer to 5kg (11 pounds), he is growing out of his newborn clothes and moving into wearing many of the gorgeous 000 and bigger 0-3 month items friends and family have given him. He is continuing to progress developmentally – smiling and chattering with us, kicking and quietly squealing at his favourite Dr Seuss bird mobile that hangs over his change table, smiling and ooing at the baby in the mirror and enchanting the Emirates air staff when Zac and I travelled to and from NZ.
It still feels a little surreal to think that Sime and I have been parents for five months. We continue to navigate the crazy world of parenting and life. It is true the days at times are long, but the weeks definitely short. It is lovely to think we are getting close to having Zac home for as long as he was in the NICU. I am extremely grateful that there continues to be very little medically interesting with Zac. I continue to also be extremely grateful for the love and support of you our family and friends. We do feel thankful for everything that Zac, Sime and I have been given that has helped our transition to being parents.